overdue update...

I have a bit of a confession.  I've been missing in action from this blog for many reasons.  Are they excuses, maybe... but I'm only human.

Work has been absolute insanity lately, and things outside of that... not much better.  To be completely honest, there was a short period where I think I even lost a bit of faith in this project.  I'm not sure if it is because of the lack of response, or lack of encouragement I feel like I've been giving people... or the fact that I hope to inspire, but will never know if I have... but there was a dark, dark period where I had to wonder "What's the point?"

And then I started hearing all these stories on Facebook or the radio about people leaving ridiculously large tips, or even one guy returning money to a blind man who had dropped it without realizing, and so on... and then I felt inspired again.  I felt a bit intimidated, as though maybe I wasn't doing enough, so I've been trying to focus on the little things and regroup.  I've been making an extra effort to be sure to open doors and remember to say "please and thank you" (honestly this seems so insignificant, but if you ever stop to think about just how few people actually do this... you would realize how much of an impact it CAN have).

I've also been trying to practice my patience.  Now, some people may not see this as an act of kindness, but when I think of all the people in the past that I've lost my temper on or been (visibly) impatient with, I know that a little patience goes a long way.  This applies to coworkers, family (even though it's really, really hard sometimes) friends, and even pets.  Honestly! People (and pets) can tell when you are impatient/frustrated/annoyed, and that can ruin their day so easily... and it only takes a few mental notes to just "check yourself" and move on.

Lastly, I've been working on a plan.  A plan for how I can do more without burning myself out, how I can participate and share kindness, how I can spread happiness and love... but I'm still trying to think of a way.

I would really love any ideas you might have, so if you're reading this... please share!

Until next time (which hopefully will be sooner, rather than later) I'm just some girl... trying to balance life and kindness... hoping that you'll help!

xoxo JSG

Be kind to yourself, and others...

I would be so much better at updating this blog if I were able to do it from my work computer... however the site just doesn't seem to like me and I'm only able to do so from my iPhone, so I apologize for the typos and any auto-corrections I may have missed!

 

Despite the inconvenience, that's not really a reason to neglect such an important project for so long, so I'd like to reassure you that I'm simply working on another task.  Some of you may not think that it counts, but to me in order to be kind you must be kind first to yourself.  Over the course of the last few years, I'm not sure when really, I've let myself go and lost track of what is important and who I am.  This last week has left me examining my heart and mind to focus on myself.  I've been spending a lot of time being kind to my body (exercising and making better lifestyle/eating choices), being kind to my mind (reading and catching up on my online program), and being kind to my soul (this one has been trickiest as I'm at a bit of a crossroads with my beliefs and faith, but I'm working on it).

 

A friend of mine introduced me to "The Secret" and it's completely changed my way of thinking.  I've been told that I seem more positive and hopeful, and that I'm generally more pleasant to be around.  Honestly, if you haven't heard of it... look it up right now, it will blow you away and change your life.  I'm taking time to be thankful for everything I have, and not look to what I don't, and I'm trying to be more appreciative of those around me (regardless of how frustrating they can be sometimes).  I think that being kind to yourself is a great step to being kind towards others, because when you are in a better mood... really it's just so much nicer for everyone!

 

That being said, I have also been paying close attention to the little things.  I was raised to be polite and helpful to others, and just assumed that everyone else was raised the same way.  To me, holding a door open or saying thank you, were all common things.  I did not think that picking up and returning a hat that someone dropped, or letting someone cut in front of you, were a big deal... but over this last little while, I've seen that it is!  You'd be surprised how thankful a person can be if they leave behind a hat (this happened to me on the weekend), and you grab it and go after them.  Literally, the man was only about 8 feet away, but he was appreciative as though I had gone a mile.  Even the appreciation people have for you simply returning a grocery cart (I honestly thought everyone did this)... the smallest things can make such a big difference, regardless of how second nature it is! 

 

I've since decided that I will not be making a list of 25 acts of kindness to complete, because that indicates that at some point, I'll be finished.  Instead, I want to make a conscious effort to live a life being kind to others, and sharing what I know and have learned about gratitude, kindness, and the good that we can put out into the world.  It doesn't take a lot to help turn someone's day around, all it takes is one extra thought... so I vow to think before acting, and to do good where I can, and to continue to live the way I was raised- not taking anything for granted, and helping others when I can.

 

Some of you are probably thinking "well I already do that, so I'm doing my part" and sure, that's great... but imagine doing just a little bit more, or even just doing it consciously? Think of the difference you can make and then put it into action.

 

I'm just some girl, hoping we can all be a bit more thoughtful and kind... consciously.

 

xox JSG

Does NOT take much to start the weekend right

Well, on my way home getting ready for the long weekend I realized that sometimes omission can also be an act of kindness.

I was going through the Tim Horton's drive thru and I kid you not, 2 seconds after receiving my order the lady behind me decided to lay into her horn. Really? 2 seconds? I was just putting my stuff down so I could drive!!

Honestly I hate that my first reaction was something along the lines of "what the $&#%" I really just wanted to get out of my car and lay into her.  Thankfully I remembered what I'm trying to do here, so I pulled out and carried on, with an apologetic wave in my rear view mirror... Sometimes kindness is having patience and not giving into our knee-jerk reactions.  For all I know the woman was having a rough day (I mean, hey we all do... And I won't pretend that I'm 100% patient 100% of the time)

I hope that this will remind us all to have a little patience, I mean... It does go both ways.

Once I got home I was feeling extra inspired.  It's a long weekend and raining out, let's start it out right!  I've had this Petro gift card burning a hole in my pocket for a while now just waiting for the right moment to use it and tonight was the night.

I went to a Petro Canada at Woodroffe and Fallowfield and waited for a while but it didn't feel right. Too many people in a hurry, the vibe just wasn't there... So I turned around and went to one about 5 minutes away.  There were a bunch of cars but something just felt right.  After parking my car, I went into the store to get some snacks for the weekend (I didn't really need any but... Believe it or not you get some interesting looks if you're sitting in your car parked at a gas station just watching people and looking around lol)

While I was inside purchasing my things I got to ask the cashier whether or not a car at one of the pumps had already paid ( I know... I was suspicious enough already... I'm sure he thought I was crazy.  Thankfully he was very nice about it) the answer was no!  I couldn't see the person gassing up so I figure what a great way to pick someone at random!  I explained what I wanted to do and asked him to wait until the customer finished pumping before ringing me through and that I wanted to use my gift card and then pay the difference in cash.  It was really hard not to freak out when the customer walked in the door... And I really wanted to stick around and see what happened, but after paying I ran out to my car and drive away quickly.  I have to admit I was really glad that I caught a glimpse of the man from my rear view mirror, smiling!

What a great way to start the long weekend... I hope each of you is as happy this weekend as I am right now!! 

Have a safe and super weekend, spread some love and kindness :)

I'm Just some girl, learning more as I go along!

Xoxo JSG

Blood donation....

I just received a rather informative call from Canadian Blood Services. All was well with the donation I made last week, and I now FINALLY know my blood type!  I'm AB negative, apparently it's pretty rare and only 0.5% of Canadians have it.  What I also found out was that even though I am able to provide for people with A and B blood types, I can only receive from my own, and the other rare O negative! 

The call definitely made me even happier about what I am doing, and really want to spread the word even more- we NEED more blood donors.  While we were on the phone I learned that ONLY 4% of ELIGIBLE Canadian blood donors actually donate, and that makes me really sad. 

I've already made my appointment for the first day I'm allowed to donate again (I'm a bit disappointed that it is so far away, since you can only donate every 56 days) and I hope this has inspired some of you to donate (or try) as well!

We are a country in need, and this is one of those really simple and easy things that we can do to help out and give back.

Do what you can...

It's been a crazy week at work, but thankfully I think that makes the good things seem that much better.

 

On Monday morning I had planned on going to a Petro Canada station and giving a way a $50 gift card.  I figure, most people have scrambled or rushed Monday mornings, and it would start somebody's week off with a pleasant surprise.  I'm not sure why, but when I set out to do so I had to go to two different stations, and neither one felt "right".  Now, I'm not saying that I'm picking and choosing, or profiling who I do these "acts of kindness" for, but... do you ever get that gut feeling that maybe it isn't the right time?  Well, I did.  And so on Monday, I ended up going to work feeling discouraged and like I had let someone down.  I know that logically, I didn't disappoint anyone because nobody was expecting it, but I did disappoint myself.  I've started to feel like maybe I've given myself unrealistic expectations of how this will unfold, so I'm now taking a step back and trying not to OVER plan it.  Yes, I need to give it some thought, but I think that my instincts will play an important role here too.  May it was the universe's way of telling me "not yet- there's someone else who needs it more" I really don't know. 

 

When I got to work, I was feeling disappointed but decided to carry on.  At our work there's this rewards system where you can give eachother points once a month for good work or team work and so on...and then redeem your points for gift cards or other items.  One of my co-workers actually sent some my way and thanked me for telling him about my little project.  I didn't think I really deserved it, but it just so happened that it brought me to my next "rewards level" and allowed me to make a donation (which I didn't know I could do until he informed me of it!) So, there it was... my Monday opportunity to do some good.  I "cashed" in my points and made a $50 donation to the Ottawa Humane Society. 

 

Sure, it wasn't a lot... but it was what I could do, and I think that what I need to try and remember is that we can only do what we can do and that really it's the thought that counts.  I'm not saying I quit. I'm not saying I plan on stopping any time soon.  But I think I need to be more reasonable, and take baby steps.  I honestly just hope that I'm motivating others to do a little bit as well, and that the little acts of kindness will spread and become something bigger.

 

I'm just some girl, but I honestly think that if we work together we can make a difference.

 

What little things will you do today?

 

xoxo JSG

Weekend Update... Act of kindness or just being a friend?

Hmm.. for some reason my Friday update didn’t get posted until today, which means that my weekend update is now falling on the same day as my end of week update, but that’s okay! I’m a bit torn about whether or not I consider this to be one of my “acts of kindness” because, really the way I see it I was just doing a favor for a friend. 

 

A friend of mine had been trying to make a date with a guy, but they had been having a hard time setting a day because of conflicting schedules (he had work when she was free, when he was free she had the kids!)  Usually my Friday nights are reserved for “date night” but last week I decided that my girlfriend deserved a date night too, so I volunteered to babysit her two kids for her.  I feel like I should probably note a) that I’ve never met her kids before, and b) I haven’t babysat in…oh, I don’t know… something like 8 years? I was TERRIFIED of what they would do to me, would they like me? Would they hate me? Would they try to make me cry? I had no way of knowing, but it was a risk I was willing to take for my friend.  I’m pleased to report that not only did the date go well, but the kids were well behaved and nobody ended the day traumatized (I don’t think!) I don’t think I count this as one of my “25” but maybe it can be #26 (you know, for good luck?)

 

On Saturday, I went to get breakfast.  The grand total came up to something like $9.00 and I gave my waiter a $20 and told him to keep the change. I honestly thought he might poop himself… This one may not seem like a big deal, but a tip that is more than 100% seems to mean a lot to some people!

 

On Sunday I didn’t actually COMPLETE one of my “acts” but I did get the ball rolling and started putting together more bags of clothes that I can donate to the Salvation Army (or Canadian Diabetes… I haven’t decided yet. Possibly a bag to each), so I am hoping to have all of that done by the end of the week so that I can drop them off… but it was a start!

 

As you can see, not everything I am doing has to do with money, and sometimes I think that those gifts are even better (the ones without money, I mean!)  I’m hoping to have more to update soon, and even more so I’m hoping that I’m inspiring some of you to do the little things.  Even holding a door open makes a difference!!

 

I’m just some girl, and I’m hoping that some of you out there are sharing the kindness with me!

 

Xoxo JSG

 

End of the week- Montana's surprise

I've been trying to decide how to write this one up, realizing now that maybe blogging about everything I have done defeats the purpose of being anonymous, thinking that somehow telling people about what I'm doing takes away from the bigger picture... But I guess if it spreads the word on kindness and shows others how easy it is to change someone's day, it's worthwhile.

On Friday at lunchtime a coworker and I decided we wanted to have lunch from Montana's. I had recently received a gift card and was planning to treat him (it has been both of our birthdays on Wednesday) but he refused to let me.  Naturally, I saw this as an opportunity to do something for someone else and pay it forward.  

We ordered ahead so that we could so a takeout and bring it back to work, so a soon as we got there I started to look around. I wasn't sure who or what I was looking for, but trusted that once I saw them I would know. And I did.  A woman with two children sitting in a booth drawing on the paper tablemat caught my eye, and over I went.  Before I got to them my mind was racing about what I would say, knowing that some people would think I was crazy to just walk up and give them a 50$ gift card.  

In hindsight, I might have been better off to give the giftcard to one if the waiters, but this was the one gift where I actually got to see a reaction.

I awkwardly explained how it had been my birthday and I had been given a lot and how I wanted to pay it forward and share the kindness I had received... And then told them I wanted them to have this gift card.  The woman was taken aback, surprised that someone would do that, and then I formed me that it was her son's birthday that day!! As if it couldn't get any better, she insisted on giving me a hug.  My day was made.

Giving to somebody who wasn't expecting it and then discovering they were out for a birthday... It was priceless! Honestly I don't think anything else feels as good as giving someone else a gift, I couldn't stop shaking.

I'm not suggesting everyone do the exact same, but it's the little things that feel good to do.  If you're reading this, I hope you'll try to make someone smile today.  Share some love, share some kindness... It doesn't take a lot to make a little difference.

I'm just some girl, and I somehow did it... You can too!

Xoxo JSG